30 Things you have to stop doing to yourself

As Marie Robinson once said: “Nobody can turn back life and make a fresh start, but he can make a new end today.”

Nothing else could be closer to the truth. But before you start this process of change, you have to stop doing the things that hold you back.

Some ideas to get started

  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people – Life is too small to spend time with people who are consuming happiness from you. If somebody wants you in their life they will create space for you. You should not be fighting for promotion and recognition. Never ever insist on imposing yourself on someone who constantly overlooks your value. Remember that true friends are not the ones standing by your side when you are at your best but those who are next to you when you are at your worst.

  2. Stop running away from your problems – Face them. No, it will not be easy. There is no person in the world who is so capable of handling impeccably all his hindrances. We are not obliged to solve our problems immediately. We are not made for it. In fact, we are made to be upset, to be sad, to stumble and to fall. Because this is the purpose of life – to face problems, to learn, to adapt and to solve them in the course of time. These are the things that shape us and make in us the person that we eventually become.

  3. Stop lying to yourself – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but not  yourself. Our lives are only improved when we take risks and the first and most difficult risk we need to take is to be honest with ourselves.(Read “The Less Traveled Way” by psychiatrist and thinker Scott Pek)

  4. Stop putting your own needs in second place – The most painful thing is to lose yourself by loving and admiring someone else, forgetting that you are also special. Yes, help others, but also help yourself.

  5. Stop trying to become someone you are not – One of the biggest challenges in life is to be yourself in a world that tries to make you like everyone else. Someone else will always be more beautiful, someone else will always be smarter, someone else will always be younger, but all of them will never be you. Do not change in order to be liked by others. Be yourself and the right people will love what you really are. That is the only way love has a meaning …

  6. Stop trying to hang from the past, stop working with those who hurt you. You can not begin to read the next chapter of your life if you are still reading the previous one..

  7. Stop making mistakes – Doing something and making it wrong is at least ten times more productive than not doing anything. Every success has a series of failures behind of it and every failure leads to success. You end up regretting the things you have NOT done so far, rather than the things you did. If there’s ever a time to follow what you like and do something that makes sense to you, this moment is NOW …

  8. Stop punishing yourself for old mistakes – Perhaps we cherish the wrong person and we cry for the wrong things, but regardless of whether things are wrong, one is certain: mistakes help us find the person and the things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, we fight and regret about things from our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Everything that has happened in your life prepares you for a moment to come.

  9. Stop trying to buy happiness – Many of the things we want are expensive. But the truth is that what really satisfies us is completely free and does not cost, like love, laughter and trying to fulfill our dreams.

  10. Stop searching for happiness exclusively for others – If you are not happy with what you are inside, you will not be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else. You need to create stability in your own life before you can share it with someone else. (Read the “Stumbling on Happiness”).

  11. Stop being inactive – Do not think too much, otherwise you will create problems that did not exist at first. Evaluate the situations and take decisive action. You can not change what you refuse to face. Making progress involves risks. End of story. You can not reach the second floor if your feet are still on the first.

  12. Stop thinking that you are not ready – No one ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity is presented. Because the greatest opportunities in life are pushing us to grow beyond our comforts, which means that we will not feel completely comfortable at first.

  13. Stop getting to relationships for the wrong reasons – Relationships must be wisely selected. It’s better to be alone than to be with a bad company. There is no need to hurry. If something is meant to happen, it will happen at the right time, with the right person and for the best reason. Fall in love when you are ready, not when you are alone.

  14. Stop rejecting new relationships because the old ones did not succeed – In life you will realize there is some reason for everyone you meet. Some will test you, others will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best of you.

  15. Stop competiting others – Do not be sad when others do better than you. Concentrate on breaking down your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and yourself, alone.

  16. Stop envying others – Jealousy is the art of measuring the blessings and gifts of others instead of yours. Ask yourself this: Is there anything I have and which everyone would like to have?

  17. Stop complaining and feel sorry for yourself – The “dice” in life is thrown for some reason – to turn your course in a direction that suits you. You may not see or understand everything, all at the moment they occur and it may be difficult for you. But remember all those unlucky “dice” that happened in the past. You will often see that they have led you to a better place, made you a better person, with greater knowledge. That’s why you must smile! Make others understand that today you are much stronger than yesterday and you will continue to be.

  18. Stop being hursh – Do not live your life with hatred in your heart. Why do you end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate? Forgiveness is not to say: “what you did to me is fine. ‘I’m OK’. But to say, “I will never let what you have done to me to spoil my happiness.” Forgiveness is the answer …. Let it go, find peace, release yourself ! And remember that forgiveness is not just for other people, it is also for you. If necessary, forgive yourself, go further and try to do better next time.

  19. Stop allowing others to lower you to their own level – Refuse to lower your level to make it easy for those who refuse to raise their own.

  20. Stop wasting time explaining to others what is that you do – Your friends do not need it, and your enemies will not believe it. Just do what you know is right with your heart.

  21. Stop doing the same things again and again without taking a break – The right time to take a deep breath is just when you do not have time for it. If you continue doing the same things that you do, you will get the same results. Sometimes you need to see things from a distance to see them more clearly.

  22. Stop overtaking the beauty of small things – Enjoy the little joys, because one day you might look back and discover that it was ultimately great joys. The best part of your life will be the little, anonymous moments you passed smiling with someone who is important to you (Little Wonders – Rob Thomas)

  23. Stop trying to make things perfect – The real world does not pay for perfectionists, it pays people who finish things.

  24. Stop walking the path with the least resistance (the easy way) – Life is not easy, especially if you are planning something worthwhile. Do not take the easy way. Do something great.

  25. Stop acting as if everything is OK if it is not – It is natural sometimes to feel that you are dissolving and that you are “falling”. You do not always have to pretend that you are strong and there is no need to continually prove that everything is doing well. Nor should you worry about what other people think – cry if you need it – it’s healthy to let your tears run. The sooner you do it, the sooner you can smile again.

  26. Stop accusing others of your problems – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams is the degree to which you can take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you are going through, you deny responsibility – and give others power over your own life.

  27. Stop trying to be everything for everyone – It’s impossible to do that and when you try it you will exhaust yourself. But to make a person smile can change the world. Perhaps not all the world but his own world. So limit your attention. Do not look everywhere.

  28. Stop worrying so much – Worry will not remove weights from tomorrow. One way to check if something is worth worrying about is to ask yourself the following question: “Does this matter in a year? In 3 years? In 5 years? If not, then it’s not worth worrying about it.

  29. Stop focusing on what you do not want to happen – Focus on what you want to happen. Positive thinking is at the beginning of every successful story. If you wake up every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today and pay much attention, you will often see that you have been confirmed.

  30. Stop being anxious – No matter how good or bad you are doing, wake up every morning happy for your life. Some people, somewhere else, desperately struggle for their own. Rather than thinking about what you do not have, try to think about what you have and which some others lack.

* Translation by Harry Labropoulos

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